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Understanding Transient Anxiety during Pregnancy




Let’s start by understanding Anxiety during pregnancy. Experiencing anxiety and depression is common during pregnancy. Studies indicate that up to 1/3 of women experience anxiety symptoms while pregnant. According to  Christine Schetter, PhD, and Lynlee Tanner, PhD, “anxiety, depression, and stress in pregnancy are risk factors for adverse outcomes for mothers and children. Anxiety in pregnancy is associated with shorter gestation and has adverse implications for fetal neurodevelopment and child outcomes.” Results of these studies indicate that

For some women, these symptoms may be transitional and resolve with time. Reports also indicate that in some women these symptoms can persist and transfer into post-natal anxiety and depression.  A study produced by Kate Walsh, PsyD et al., also stated that “maternal prenatal stress influences offspring neurodevelopment and birth outcomes including the ratio of males to females born; however, there is limited understanding of what types of stress matter, and for whom.”


What Can Cause Transient Anxiety during pregnancy?




It helps to understand the anxiety of pregnant women’s experiences by seeing it through their eyes. A combination of factors can give rise to anxiety during pregnancy, these include:


  • Hormonal and physical changes
  • The normal fears mothers to experience such as having a healthy, problem-free pregnancy
  • More so in the event, there are challenges facing the pregnancy, these feelings can be amplified.


A combination of these factors can have a drastic emotional impact on the mental health of pregnant women.


The Symptoms of Transient Anxiety during Pregnancy


Symptoms can include:


  • Feeling tense and experiencing an uncontrollable sense of anxiousness
  • Excessive worry, especially about your health or the health of your baby
  • Lack of concentration
  • Feeling irritated or agitated
  • Experiencing tenseness in muscles
  • Insomnia


How to Manage Anxiety During Pregnancy



There are a number of ways to treat anxiety during pregnancy, these include:


  • Therapy where you can discuss anxiety attack help
  • Work with your medical support team to find ways to manage the problems giving rise to the anxiety
  • Join a support group where pregnant women come together to offer each other support
  • Join online community support groups
  • Speak to a counselor
  • Find activities that are safe for you to participate in that will aid in providing you a relief, for example, yoga
  • Try meditation and deep breathing exercises
  • Get enough rest
  • Talking helps but you can also start a journal, it helps to speak or write about what you are feeling


There are also a number of self-help books that can offer you guidance, support and the necessary tools to manage your anxiety.


“Through a series of easy exercises and worksheets, you’ll learn skills for relaxing yourself when you feel stressed. You’ll also learn to reduce the frequency and intensity of anxious feelings many pregnant women and mothers of infants face. The book also includes a chapter that offers tips to help fathers understand and support their partners.” The Pregnancy and Postpartum Anxiety Workbook

In addition, Stefan Hoffman, PhD, et al., suggested that “reappraisal strategies are more effective than suppression strategies for regulating emotions. Recently, proponents of the acceptance-based behavior therapy movement have further emphasized the importance of acceptance-based emotion regulation techniques.”

Knowledge is Power


Empower yourself through knowledge and research. Take the time to speak to your medical team, ask questions and spend time researching. There are a number of Pregnancy Tool Kits available to aid in educating the mother to be. Having a baby is an experience that affects each woman differently. It is not uncommon for women to find a lot of things to be anxious about.


Educating yourself and learning the skills to cope with the changes your body goes through pregnancy as well as what to expect the first few weeks you bring baby home will empower you and help reduce the anxiety and worries.



The Risk of Untreated Pregnancy Anxiety


“There are well documented, but often overlooked, consequences of untreated depression and anxiety during pregnancy for the fetus and the mother,” Dr. Smith says.


The risk for the baby as a result of untreated anxiety during pregnancy includes:


  • Early/Premature birth
  • Poor or low APGAR scores
  • Low birth weight

The risk for the mother includes:


  • Pregnancy termination
  • Postpartum depression or anxiety (baby blues)
  • Lessenedchances of attachment to the baby
  • Preeclampsia
  • Early labor

Natural Birth vs C-Section

After you have received the wonderful news that you are expecting a bundle of joy. You might be wondering how to bring your bundle into this world. It’s one of the things that you need to decide. In today’s times, we have a choice of giving birth naturally or having a C-section. Both births have pros and cons. Before deciding, you might want to have a closer look at both options. You should also plan ahead so that you can make the necessary hospital bookings etc.


The Pros of a Natural Birth:


Natural birth was the only way of giving birth around 50 years ago. Besides that, you can recover much quicker from a natural birth than a C-section. You are also much more likely to spend less time in the hospital. Moms get a natural high after delivering her baby and it also strengthens the bond between mom and baby. The mom can also feed her baby after birth. Babies are also less likely to suffer from breathing problems at birth. All or most of the water and fluids get pushed out during delivery.


The Cons of a Natural Birth:

Apart from it being a painful experience, there’s a chance that women can suffer from vaginal tearing. The tissues and skin around the vaginal area can tear. If the mother has been in labor for a long period of time, the baby is at risk of being born with a bruised scalp. 

“Every delivery, whether you use pain medications or not, has a risk of complications, such as heavy blood loss or issues with the umbilical cord. These complications may be harder to detect or treat without medical intervention,” Deborah Weatherspoon, PhD explains.

The Pros of a C-Section:



The risk of the mom being traumatized is much lower than giving birth naturally. The trauma risk is much lower than a natural birth, especially if something goes wrong. C-sections are also scheduled which makes it more convenient than waiting to into labor. If the mom has an STD or HIV, the chances to these infections passing onto the baby is reduced. With C-section births, you won’t suffer from vaginal tearing and episiotomy.


The Cons of a C-Section Birth:

More blood is lost during a C-section birth than a natural delivery. The babies are more likely to have respiratory problems such as asthma. It also takes much longer for the mom to recover from a C-section birth than a natural delivery. You also must stay in the hospital a little longer. “You are really going to feel worn down and tired after a C-section, and on top of that you have a newborn baby to take care of, so the load and the demand on your body is very high,” Iffath Hoskins, MD says.

At times, the baby is premature and the C-section is performed too early. Breastfeeding is also more difficult, because of the pain and discomfort. The risks of post-partum infections are also much greater. Babies that have been delivered by C-section may still have water in their lungs, during a normal delivery the water usually gets squeezed and pushed out. Children that are born by C-section are also more likely to suffer from obesity. The babies that are born by C-section are also exposed to a more sterile environment, whereas with babies that are born by a natural delivery are exposed to gut bacteria. This gut bacteria helps them with fighting off allergies. C-sections are also more costly than natural births. In some complicated cases, there’s a risk of the surgeon cutting your bladder and bowels accidently. There’s also a risk of blood clotting in the veins for the mom.

When Are Emergency C-Sections Performed:

In some cases, an emergency C-section might be required. This can happen for a number of reasons such as:


  • Issues with either the umbilical cord or placenta.
  • The baby’s heart rate decreases or their movement decreases.
  • Labor is taking too long or not progressing.
  • Some babies might be too big to fit through the birth canal.
  • When the baby breached.





Weigh all the pros and cons accordingly. You should also consult your doctor or gynecologist for further advice on which birthing option is most suitable for you. “Safety certainly matters and women should discuss their intentions and expectations with their health care providers,” Elizabeth Aura McClintock Ph.D. notes. It’s also recommended that you have skin to skin contact with your baby directly after birth. Wish you the best of luck on your birthing journey!


Prenatal Depression And PTSD – It Is Possible (Personal Story)



When I learned that I was pregnant with my second child, you could say I was happy. She was seven weeks inside my womb, and I also have this beautiful four-year-old girl who filled my heart every single day. It was a surprise for my husband and me to have another baby, but you could say that financially we were ready. Physically, my body was okay. I was 27 at that time when I felt my heart squeezing from inside of me. But our family doctor told me months on a routine checkup that there’s nothing wrong. I was physically healthy. What I failed to do was a consultation with a therapist. I didn’t know that I was battling mental health issues at that time, since before I got pregnant with my second baby because I kept a secret.

“One thing that often gets overlooked in the mad dash to motherhood is more important than any outfit or accessory: mental health,” writes Kristen Scarlett, LMHC.

If I told my husband that I was having problems with a co-worker, he would tell me to stop working. We always talk about this – me working when I don’t have to – he doesn’t like the idea, but he lets me do it. He can provide for me and our family. He even gives me my allowance, but you know, as a working woman, I’m used to providing for myself.

Since college, I earned my keep, paid my bills and bought my things. Even my parents would insist that they gave me money, but I would not accept it. I never leaned on a man, until I got married, because I can take care of myself, but he wanted to take care of me. It was a rough transition at first, him paying for everything and giving me money, but I bargained for my work. And I won on that matter. It’s just that, when this problem arose with my co-worker, I didn’t want him to know. I didn’t want him to find out. I kept it a secret from him because I didn’t want him to say, “I told you so.”




The problem started last year with this guy co-worker of mine. I never showed interest, but as my supervisor told me, “You’re such a friendly person, Laura.” Friendly doesn’t mean flirty, and to that co-worker, he thought, I was flirting.

The traumatic event happened during our Christmas Party. On the way to the comfort room, I didn’t know that he followed me. He was drunk as hell, and well, I was on the tipsy side after three glasses of red wine. He got me from behind, pushed me on top of the sink, spread my legs while he positioned himself, hugged me tightly by my waist and kissed me torridly. I froze for a few seconds, and I literally didn’t move, but when my senses hit me, I backed away, pushed him with all my might and shouted, STOP IT, LET ME GO.

“Often recipients of sexual harassment are very embarrassed and don’t want to talk about it to anyone,” writes Audrey Nelson Ph.D.

It was such a blessing that one of our bosses was entering the CR at that time and she witnessed what happened. In short, he got fired, and I was retained. The CCTV also validated my statement of him assaulting me and to avoid embarrassment; I was transferred to another department upon my request. I also asked everyone who knew about the incident (people who were on the disciplinary board) to keep mum about what happened, as I didn’t want people in the office to talk about me.




They told me to see a therapist, but I declined to say that all is fine. Well, all wasn’t fine. For months, I have struggled with sleeping, and when I see that comfort room, I freeze. Everything goes back to that night. I can’t breathe. Sometimes, I can’t sleep well. In some days, I shake with fear, and it continued when I got pregnant.

“Sexual assault is traumatic. Similar to other traumatic experiences, it is normal for a person to experience trauma-reaction symptoms in the weeks following an assault,” writes Elyssa Barbash Ph.D.

The episodes were intense, and this made my husband worried for me. He brought me to his cousin who also happened to be a psychologist. I had to let it all out. My husband was so angry at him and a bit towards me for not telling him right away. He hugged me and told me that he loves me so much and wants the world for me, but I shouldn’t have kept it a secret. I shouldn’t have shut him out. And because of that, I suffered. I developed PTSD and prenatal depression, according to the psychologist. For now, I am still coping with these issues through the help of a specialist and the love of my husband and child.

If you’ve been assaulted, don’t keep it a secret. Tell your loved one right away so that they can assist you in finding the right mental health help, and support you throughout your journey to betterment.


Teenage Mom: Is She Ready? How Can You Help Her?



Having a new baby requires a lot of adjustments and changes in the family. In a normal situation, these changes can be tiring, but it is rewarding as well. But in the case wherein your teenage child is the one having her baby, it is an entirely different story. She may even need online therapy to support her mental health during this difficult stage in her life.

Though teenage pregnancy is quite a trend these days, parents of the teenager are also having a hard time coping with the new setup. “Single pregnant women can get social and emotional support from friends, family and community members, and from mental health professionals. Such non-partner sources of support have been found to have a significant positive impact when utilized correctly and they should follow similar guidelines,” Guy Winch Ph.D. explains.


The moment your teenage child tells you that she’s having a baby, your feelings would run wild. It is understandable that frustration and disappointment would first sink in. In the later run, some parents would dwell on denial, or embarrassment while some would carry the guilt of not guiding their child correctly. “Previous research has attributed a girl’s increased risk of pregnancy to the possible consequences of a father leaving–lower family income, conflict at home and weak parental monitoring.”

But then, emotions are just emotions. They can do nothing to change the situation. Thus, it is best to set these feelings aside and think of the things that could help your child cope, adjust and accept the new role that she will be playing. Bear in mind that this situation is not about your child now but also on the baby that she is carrying.

Someone in the family should act as the neutral one to sort through the situation and get the solution needed.


Your Child’s Feelings

You may be disappointed. That’s understandable being a parent and all. But you also need to consider what your child is also feeling at the moment. At first, you need to understand that your kid is terrified with your probable reaction that is why she kept it from you for quite some time. Carrying a secret does no good especially since your daughter knows that in the end, it will be disappointing for you, her parent. And there is also this uncertainty of what will happen to her and the future once the baby is born. “In recognizing the need to help mothers cope with the challenge of being mothers, family members and friends have to recognize that love and support are usually what women in crisis need most,” Romeo Vitelli Ph.D. notes.

On the part of teenage fathers, the responsibility and the guilt can be overwhelming. With this, the parents of a teenage father should also help the child and support him with his duties.

Special Concerns

Pregnant teenage mothers, just like any other mother, need proper medical attention and care. This will help them have physically healthy babies, but a lack thereof can lead to:

  • Anemia
  • High blood pressure
  • Fetal death
  • Low birth-weight child
  • Delivery complications

Once you learn that your child is pregnant, get her the proper prenatal care at once so that her chances of having a successful pregnancy would be high.



Medical Care

During the very first prenatal exam, your pregnant daughter should be examined thoroughly. Urine and blood tests are mandatory for pregnant women. Then tests for rubella, sexually transmitted diseases, mumps, and measles should also be given out.

Other than that, your daughter should be educated with the following:

  • The importance of prenatal care and being aware of her schedule
  • Physical and emotional changes
  • How to deal with the inconveniences brought about by pregnancy

Other than this, she should be educated with the importance of vitamins and other supplements for herself and the baby as well.

Lifestyle Changes

The teenage mother should also be educated in terms of lifestyle change. This is important for her health, her pregnancy, and the baby.

  • No smoking
  • No drinking
  • No drugs
  • No more than 200 mg of caffeine intake per day
  • Should eat right
  • Should have enough rest
  • No to unsafe sex


The teenage mother should be aware of proper nutrition as well. Eat foods that are not only good for her but also the baby as well. The diet is more on vegetables, fruits, and grains. The following should be included in the pregnant teenager’s diet throughout her pregnancy:

  • Calcium
  • Protein
  • Folic acid
  • Iron

Drinking the right amount of water (ask the OB-GYNE about this) and cutting down calorie intake are also very much recommended.


Pregnant women and this includes the teenage mothers as well, should also engage in exercise activities. This is not only good for the body, but it also conditions the body for the big day. This will keep the body energized and healthy.

Exercise doesn’t mean extreme workouts that are usually done in the gym. Simple walking and stretching will do. Physical exercises that do not require pressure and intense workout are recommended, but before the teenage mother starts with any type of activity, consult the OB-GYNE first.




Teenage pregnancy can bring in a lot of stress. Emotions are unstable, the pressure of getting things done for the baby can be overwhelming, the medical expenses are high, and the changes are abrupt which is difficult to manage emotionally and mentally. This will trigger stress and stress can be very harmful to both mother and baby. Ann Diamond Weinstein Ph.D. notes that, “There is increasing evidence that suggests that the intentional use of stress reduction skills during the preconception, prenatal and early parenting periods lessens the negative impacts of stress on mothers-to-be and their developing babies.”

These issues cannot be avoided especially in teenage pregnancies, but they must be faced and settled. However, the teenager must be guided throughout this time. She should also be taught how to manage her stress for her own sake and for her baby’s, as well.

Prenatal Classes

There are prenatal classes for soon-to-be mothers. These classes will teach them how to prepare themselves for delivery day, how to handle their baby and so much more. These classes will increase their awareness of motherhood.

New Responsibilities

Being a mother is a new responsibility. Even those who are already adults can become confused and frustrated. So how much more with those teenage mothers who are unprepared?

With this, guidance from the parents is needed. It may be frustrating, but then again, for the benefit of your child, emotions must be set aside and let your unconditional love reign.


The Best Foods to Eat During the Last Trimester of Pregnancy

The Best Foods to Eat During the Last Trimester of Pregnancy

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Pregnancy lasts for forty weeks and they are divided into three trimesters. The 28th week to the 40th week is the third and final trimester of pregnancy. The third trimester can be the most stressful one because you’re anxious and trying to prepare for childbirth and organizing the home to be a baby-friendly one.

Changes That are Experienced During the Last Trimester of Pregnancy:

You might notice somebody changes during the last trimester. Here are some changes:

  • Swollen feet, ankles, fingers and sometimes even the face.
  • Your baby will move a lot more during this trimester.
  • Your uterus might tighten occasionally, it’s not unbearably painful. This is called Braxton Hicks.
  • Some might have difficulty with sleeping.
  • Your breasts can also start getting tender and sometimes you might leak watery milk.
  • The need to urinate more often.

Some Tips to Stay Healthy During Pregnancy:



  • Exercise, even if it’s just by walking. However, don’t over exert yourself or perform any strenuous exercises.
  • Consume your prenatal vitamins that are prescribed by your doctor. “There is evidence that folic acid supplements taken during the first three months of pregnancy can have beneficial effects on children’s brain development,” says Tony Cassidy, Ph.D.
  • Have plenty of rest and also get lots of sleep, you’ll miss this after your baby is born.
  • Take care of your dental health, poor dental health is linked to premature labor.
  • Keep yourself hydrated by drinking lots of water.
  • Avoid alcohol, caffeine, smoking, and drugs. This is obvious.
  • Oily, greasy and junk foods.
  • Raw fish.
  • Long distance car trips and even flights.


What Foods You Need to Include in Your Diet:


It’s important to eat healthy foods throughout pregnancy and especially during the third trimester when you are so close to giving birth. “Prenatal experiences with food flavors, which are transmitted from the mother’s diet to amniotic fluid, lead to greater acceptance and enjoyment of these foods during weaning,” says Jamie Hale, MS. Here’s a list of foods and vitamins that are vital to have during the third trimester of pregnancy:


With your body changing rapidly, you need enough protein to get you through these changes. Including more proteins can also decrease the chances of diabetes. “…frequent fish consumption by pregnant women is of benefit for their unborn child’s development,” says Kirsi Laitinen, Ph.D. “This may be attributable to long-chain polyunsaturated fatty acids within fish, but also due to other nutrients like vitamin D and E, which are also important for development.” Here are some foods that are rich in protein: fish, meat, beans, dairy products, and eggs.


Iron-rich foods are extremely important to consume during pregnancy especially the final stages. This is because pregnant women tend to lose iron during pregnancy. Lack of iron causes anemia, which leads to dizziness, feeling week and fatigue. Your unborn baby also requires iron for their development. Here are some foods that are rich sources of iron: red meats such as steak and lamb, green leafy vegetables such as spinach, lettuce, kale, broccoli, etc. Some other sources of iron are seeds, beans, dates, and poultry.


Calcium-rich foods are required for the unborn baby’s bone development. Calcium is also great for increasing your milk supply, so ensure that you consume them even after giving birth. Some calcium-rich foods are dairy products, tofu, almonds, and salmon.

Fruits and Vegetables:


These are extremely nutritious and they are packed with vitamins and minerals. All the nutrients that are required for both mom and baby. They also help with keeping you hydrated. You can also make smoothies, fruit salads, include them in your oatmeal or you can eat them on its own.


This helps with repairing damaged tissues and it also helps with the absorption of calcium. It also helps with reducing the risks of premature birth. So, ensure to get plenty of magnesium-rich foods. Here are some magnesium-rich foods: oats, avocados, nuts, legumes, pumpkin seeds, almonds, barley, and beans.


Nuts make great snacks and they are also very healthy. If you don’t have an appetite, then you can always snack on nuts. You can try having some almonds, pistachios, walnuts, etc.

Vitamin C, B6, and B12:

These are essential for the growth of your baby and also the placenta. Here are some foods that are high in these vitamins: citrus foods, chickpeas, bananas, whole grain cereals, and fresh fruit juices.

How to Ease Morning Sicknesses


How to Ease Morning Sicknesses

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Morning sickness and violent nausea during pregnancy are normal. Morning sicknesses usually occur during the first trimester of pregnancy. Nausea and vomiting can also happen at any time during the day. It can be difficult to get through the day, but don’t despair; nausea usually only lasts for the first trimester. There are also ways to ease morning sicknesses and nausea.

What Causes Nausea and Morning Sicknesses During Pregnancy:

Unfortunately, the exact cause hasn’t quite been established yet. Although the one possible cause could be the increase of estrogen and the rising levels of hormones that lead to nausea.

A Few Tips that Can Help Ease Morning Sickness:




  • As soon as you wake up, get some fresh air, open the windows, or step outside for a few minutes.
  • Avoid spraying deodorants, as this can aggravate nausea.
  • Avoid bad smells, sometimes even smells that never bothered you might just start bothering you during pregnancy.
  • Avoid raw foods, any raw foods can aggravate nausea. They also carry bacteria, which is not only bad for you, but also for the fetus.
  • Take some time off from work if you really can’t manage to get through the day. You can use this time to take care of yourself and get plenty of rest. Elizabeth Aura McClintock, Ph.D. of the University of Notre Dame wrote, “Given that many mothers want or need to remain employed, it would be most productive to focus on the workplace conditions most conducive to positive infant and maternal health behaviors and outcomes, rather than suggesting that expecting or nursing mothers quit their jobs.”
  • Stay hydrated, have a glass of water after waking up and sip throughout the day.“Over the course of a typical twenty-four hour period, the longest spell most of us go without fluid intake is the six to eight hours we spend sleeping,” Joshua Gowin, Ph.D. says. He explains, “Brain cells require a delicate balance between water and various elements to operate, and when you lose too much water, that balance is disrupted.”
  • Eat smaller meals at a time. It might be difficult to get three huge meals down. So, try breaking up your meals and eat little at a time.
  • Avoid oily and greasy foods. These only aggravate nausea and they are unhealthy.
  • Avoid sugary and fizzy drinks. These are unhealthy and you can substitute these unhealthy drinks for healthy and delicious beverages.

Foods That You Should Include in Your Diet, That Can Help with Relieving Nausea:

“Certain snack foods seem to railroad you right into mindlessly overeating–like potato chips or crackers packaged in an oversized bag,” says Susan Albers, Psy.D. “You can easily lose track of your portion size. It’s difficult to determine whether you are eating because you are hungry or simply because there is more.”

While different foods may or may not work for certain women; here are some foods that can relieve and alleviate nausea:

Fresh Ginger:

It might sound terrible, but in fact, it’s not so bad. Plus, it’s super healthy. It’s one of the best anti-nausea foods and there are many ways in which you can consume it. You can add it in when you’re cooking most dishes such as stir fry. You can also make smoothies with it, you can have ginger tea and you can even make a ginger soup. Go online and search for recipes that include ginger.


Another great anti-nausea food. There are also many ways to use it. You can cut a slice and add it in your water, you can cook with lemon juice and you can add it to any smoothie.

Crackers, Dry Pretzels or Dry Cereals:

Dry foods are the best things to have when you’re suffering from morning sicknesses. Crackers, dry pretzels, and dry cereals are perfect for having for breakfast.

Frozen Fruit Popsicles:



Not only are these extremely delicious, but they are also great for you and for alleviating nausea. Colder foods might actually work better for easing up morning sickness. These also keep you hydrated. After you have vomited, have one of these. It will also replace all the sugar that was lost, in a healthy way.

Complex Carbohydrates:

Carbs such as bread, pasta, and potatoes are easily digested and they can also make great energy boosters.

Some Beverages That You Can Add to Your Diet:

First on the list is water. You can also drink coconut water and coconut milk in moderation. It’s also a good idea to make smoothies, these are digestible and contain fruits and vegetables.


When You Should Consult Your Doctor:



When you are suffering from extreme nausea and you are struggling to keep anything down, then it you should seek medical treatment immediately. Your doctor will examine you and also prescribe some medications that will help with alleviating nausea.

How to Handle Unplanned Pregnancies

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After hearing that you are pregnant when you’re not expecting it can be quite overwhelming and it can stir up a whole lot of negative emotions and stress too. It is also a challenge for both you and your partner. At times, you might feel as though you’re all alone and no one cares. You might also be confused about your future and how to handle this unplanned pregnancy.

Some common emotions that you might feel upon hearing that you’re pregnant are: worry, sadness, frustration, anger, confusion, shock, anxiety, detachment from your baby, etc.

Here’s What You Can Do After Hearing that You’re Pregnant


Inform Your Partner or the Father of Your Child:


It might be even more difficult if you have been separated from your partner before knowing that you are pregnant. But whatever the case might be, he should know about this and he should also share the responsibilities that come with the baby – even if you are no longer together. He could probably help you out financially.

Seek the Support from Others in Your Life:

During this time, you will need all the support you can get. You will also feel better when you have your loved ones by your side. Confide in your parents, ask them to give you their full support. Reach out to your closest friends and cry on their shoulders whenever you need to.

Visit a Pregnancy Center:


Now that you are pregnant, you will need to visit a pregnancy center regularly. You will need to go for regular checkups, ultrasounds and get educated about pregnancy. You will also need to explore your birthing options and start planning accordingly. You can seek advice from a midwife or doctor if you are uncertain about which birthing option to choose.

Seek Counseling and Therapy:

If you are really depressed and can’t deal with your emotions. Or if you are facing other issues either than dealing with an unwanted pregnancy, you should seek counseling. A counselor can help you with dealing with your emotions and they could help you.

“Unintended pregnancy carried to term may have a long-term effect on women,” says Rebecca Mercier, Ph.D. “Health care professionals should therefore consider asking about pregnancy at early visits, as women who report that their pregnancy was unintended or unwanted may benefit from earlier or more targeted screening both during and following pregnancy.”

Give Yourself Some Time:

It’s understandable if you not happy about the pregnancy and you’re not looking forward to it either. You need some time to accept it, and you need to give yourself this time. Spend some time alone, think things over. Try and see the positive side of things and just give yourself a break and some soul-searching time.

“Take care and treat yourself the same way you do with loved ones,” says Georgia Witkin, Ph.D. “It’s important to make time for yourself whether it’s a workout class or a nice dinner.”

Your Plans Are Not Ruined:

It may seem as though your future has been ruined and your career will end. This is not the case, you can still make your dreams come true after motherhood. It might take a little time, but it’s possible. In fact, you will be focused and driven to make your dreams come true because you will want to be a good role model for your child and you will also want to provide the best for your child.

“Part of what makes regret so heavy is the feeling that something valuable has been irrevocably lost,” says Juliana Breines, Ph.D. “But there are also unexpected second chances, happy twists of fate, and new beginnings we never could have planned.”

Advantages of An Unplanned Pregnancy:

Unbelievably, there are some advantages to an unplanned pregnancy. It probably won’t seem like it, but read on:

  • You will sort out your finances: having a baby means you will need to be financially stable.
  • You will finally end up cleaning up your home and taking out all your clutter.
  • You will sort out your relationship. Whether you end up single or with your baby’s father. Either way, you will sort out your relationship and you will know where you stand.
  • You will sort yourself out emotionally and you will become stronger because now you will be forced to be strong for the sake of your baby.