How to Keep Your Marriage Alive During Pregnancy and After
It’s common for partners to drift apart after the birth of a baby because the mom becomes busy nurturing her little one, leaving little to no time for her partner. It is also normal for partners to lack intimacy during pregnancy because the husband becomes afraid of hurting or harming the baby. During pregnancy, the mother to need extra tender loving care and sometimes just someone to talk to. Someone whom she can share her feelings and emotions with, without being judged.
How to Keep Your Marriage Alive During Pregnancy
Your life is probably turbulent of emotions and you need that extra support. You also need to make the most of your time with your partner before your baby is born. Here are some tips that can help you:
Talk to Your Partner:
Your partner will know how you’re feeling until you tell him about it. Share your feelings with him whenever you’re feeling low. Confide in him and share your feelings openly.
“Communication in love relationships is a function of emotional connection. When people feel connected, they communicate fine, and when they feel disconnected they communicate poorly, regardless of their choice of words and communication techniques,” writes Steven Stosny, Ph.D.
Go on a Holiday:
Be careful when you are in your last semester of pregnancy and it is also better not to go far. Go somewhere close by and enjoy your time alone with your husband. Your time with your husband will be limited once the baby is born, so make the most of it.
“Going on vacation with your significant other can indeed help you get to know each other better, make new joint memories, and try new things together – all beneficial for couplehood,” writes Jelena Kecmanovic Ph.D.
It is important to maintain your intimacy during pregnancy and after. To maintain a healthy and happy marriage, intimacy plays an important role. During pregnancy, it might be uncomfortable and might seem as though it’s impossible. You can Google some sex positions that are comfortable and safe for you to try out. Or you could ask your primary healthcare giver.
“A sustaining, energized sexual relationship is a product of an integration of multiple facets. It grows over time from being in sync with each other’s values and outlook; your desires and fears about your journey together; your life goals, both individually and as a couple,” writes Douglas LaBier Ph.D.
Get Him Involved in Your Pregnancy:
Apart from sharing your feelings with him, you should involve him more in your pregnancy. Ask him to accompany you to doctors’ visits, ultrasounds, and birthing classes. Allow him to also get educated about pregnancy and birthing.
How to Keep Your Marriage Alive After Giving Birth
After your baby is born, there will be a joy as well as tiredness and frustration. Taking care of an infant can take a lot of time and often leaves you feeling drained. Here are a few tips on how you can keep your marriage alive after baby:
Ask Your Partner to Help You with the Baby:
After all, the responsibilities should be shared. Ask him to help you with the chores or with the baby so that you can take a little time to relax.
Send flirty and sexy pictures to your husband while he’s at work. This will set the mood. It will also keep the spark alive in your marriage.
You can ask your parents or his parents to babysit for you. Even if it’s just for a few hours. During this time, you can plan a date with your partner. You can go out for dinner or just stay at home and have sex.
Nap During the Day:
The best time to catch up on some sleep is when your baby is sleeping during the day. Finish all your chores early and take some time to rest. This way when your husband returns home you will be revitalized. Even if you don’t have sex, you can still spend some time together.
Do Things at Home with Your Partner:
You don’t need to always spend time with your partner out of the house. You can do things at home too, even if it’s not sex. Enjoy a nice soak in the bathtub with your man or watch a romantic movie together. Do things that you both enjoy. This will also strengthen the bond between the two of you.